3 Great Tips For Ending An Affair
April 8, 2009 by admin
Filed under General Dating Articles
So, you’re stuck in an affair that you can’t seem to get out of. You dread having to say those five words, “I don’t love you anymore” but one more day with this person and you’re going to put a gun to your head. What do you do? Well, let’s be honest. Ending an affair is not easy. If you’re looking for a quick and painless solution, you’re out of luck. However, these three tips should make the ordeal a lot less painful on both parties. Keep reading to find out more.
Tip number 1 is simple…do it now! I’m dead serious. You do NOT want to put this off. The longer you wait, the harder it’s going to be. Every single day that you delay is one more day that your partner is going to get that much more attached to you. Believe me when I say this…people do NOT give up easily. So if you’ve already decided that you want to end this, do it quickly or it’s only going to get harder.
Tip number 2 is not as simple…be direct! You know those poorly written situation comedies where the guy is about to break up with his girl and says something stupid like, “So, what do you think about those Knicks?” Yeah, it’s true. Beating around the bush happens in real life too. Don’t do it. Approach your partner and simply say, “We have to talk.” When your partner asks, “About what?” you simply say, “About us.” Don’t hem and haw. Don’t look around the room. Look directly in your partner’s eyes and give it to them straight.
Tip number 3 is to make them understand that the relationship was a two way street and it wasn’t all their fault. Take responsibility for your role in the disaster. Trust me, it really DOES take two to dance the tango. If you’re up front and don’t make the partner feel like they were the “bad guy” it will greatly help this whole thing go down better.
Like I said, there is no easy way to breakup with somebody, but if you do it quickly, if you’re direct and if you accept some blame, it will go a lot better than if you just kick them out the door or worse…keep them hanging on.
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