And sure, maybe you’ve even gotten a reply or two…

Then you decide to go in for the kill!  You ask her for the phone number or coffee date and WHAM! What happens?  Absolutely nothing.  She flakes.  She dances around your request and maybe she’ll even throw in the, “well, maybe we should get to know each other first before we go any further!”

Girls flake out all the time… they do this for several reasons…

1.) You’re too creepy.  Yes, it’s the common problem… but what does being “creepy” actually mean?  For her, it’s a SAFETY CONCERN.  Human beings are naturally hard-wired to fear the unknown.  In order for her to think that you’re NOT creepy, you need to reveal information.  The more useful information she knows about you, the less creepy you’ll look.

What’s the easiest way to do this?  You need to have really good phone conversation skills.  When you learn how to build trust and attraction through the phone, she will most definitely want to go out on that date with you.

Here’s another reason why she might flake out on you…

2.) Fear of awkwardness.  Many women also fear social awkward silence/conversation.  Nobody likes this.  Nothing is worse for her than to go through the hassle of putting up makeup, making room in her schedule for a date, only for her to sit at a coffee table in silence with some guy she barely knows.

You need to know the tools to break down this barrier and diffuse the situation!

She also might flake because…

3.) She’s just too busy, period.  You need to know WHEN to ask a girl out for a coffee date.

4.) You haven’t shown much value.  You essentially need to show her that you are of HIGH value… and this is EASY but only if you know what you’re doing!

And that’s only the half of it.  There are certain techniques and strategies that YOU can use to get those girls to STOP being flakey!

by Derek Lamont
Master PUA & Author
www.OnlinePickupSecrets.com

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Let me tell you a girl’s biggest fear when talking to guys online…

They fear… the “CREEP”.  You know the guys I’m talking about.  The one’s that are just weird looking.

They look like they don’t have any friends.  They look like they haven’t been laid in forever.  The ones that just look like complete and total STALKERS.

And you wonder why online dating for them is so difficult?

Some guys just put things in their profiles that make them look like future rapists. Gross!

So here are six things that they’re doing wrong… Here’s profile blunder #1.

1.)    They have only a few or NO pictures at all.  Imagine being a good looking girl and you receive a message from some dude that has NO picture.  Are you kidding?  What is that guy thinking?  And sorry… one or two pictures doesn’t cut it either.  You really need to have a plethora of pictures that convey high value… if you don’t, you’re out of the picture entirely.

2.)    If you use Facebook or MySpace… don’t put yourself as “single”.  This may be counter-intuitive, but by putting yourself as single, you make the remark that you “are trying”.  See what I mean?  Plus it eliminates the mystery.  You want to make the girl wonder… “Is he single or not?”

3.)    Last but not least… PUNCTUATION AND GRAMMAR!  You think that really hot chick is going to want to reply to you if your profile is riddled with spelling errors?  I’m not saying that your profile content has to be at the level of Shakespeare’s, but check your writing!  Use a spell checker if you have to.  SHOW that you are intelligent.

So there you go, guys!  Avoid these blunders at all costs!

-Derek Lamont
www.OnlinePickupSecrets.com

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From our pick up expert Derek Lamont (girls look away now!)

I’ve been looking at Facebook’s latest user-base statistics… and let me tell you something.  They are absolutely staggering.  As of right now…there are approximately over SIXTY-FIVE MILLION ACTIVE USERS!

Now, I don’t have to say this…but I’m going to anyway.  This is a bloody gold mine for picking up women.  But I’ll get to that a bit later…

I can’t even begin to imagine how hot those Facebook servers are running… because that is outrageous. Not only is their user-base absurd, but their growth has been just as despicable; 250, 000 new users every single day that passes…3% weekly growth…doubling in size every 6 months.  Whew.

Apparently, according to this data, no one uses Facebook.  End sarcasm!

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We live in an era where almost everyone has one of these little accounts.  It’s almost borderline necessary to have one of these accounts if you want to function “normally” in society… and I’ll prove it to you.

Let me tell you about one of my good buddies. His name was Andrew… and I bet everyone knows a guy like Andrew.

He HATED the whole Facebook/MySpace movement, claiming that he would never…ever…get a Facebook account.  And yeah…when something is as ridiculously popular as Facebook, there are bound to be a good handful of downright HATERS.

But let’s face it.  Whether you’re a Facebook junkie (…logging into your account every single day to check your wall posts and send out a few “pokes”) or just someone who absolutely despises the social-networking movement, you can’t deny the fact that it’s becoming an integral part in social dynamics.

I mean…you can keep in touch with people you would usually NEVER talk to anymore, not to mention strengthening the relationships you currently have… you get invited to more interesting “events”… you get to see what all your friends are up to at any given moment… and you get to meet some pretty neat people if you try!

But anyways… back to Andrew.  He started to feel like his social-circle was leaving him.  No, his friends didn’t stop talking to him because he didn’t have a Facebook account, but you could tell – he just didn’t have as many friends as everyone else did.  He didn’t get invited to as many birthday party bashes or going away parties.  He just didn’t get to know as many people…

You might be thinking…well, maybe Andrew is just a loser!  He wasn’t.  He was a pretty good-looking dude with a good head on his shoulders.

However, it was easy to see that he was a little more “disconnected” from society.  And you know what? After Andrew moved back to Toronto a week ago… even I lost contact with him.

Sad, isn’t it? With some of your “not so close” friends, you almost have to RELY on another communications medium to keep in contact with them… that’s what Facebook’s for.  We might as well make the most of it then.

So how am I going to tie this in with girls?

Easy.

Think about all the beautiful, gorgeous women that are on Facebook.  It’s not a “nerds only” exclusive fan club anymore.  THERE ARE SOME INSANELY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN ON HERE!  But some of you are thinking… yeah… but it’s SO easy to be labeled a “creep” if I message one of them.

I thought that too until I got to know some of the most prestigious and elite “online pickup artists” known to man.

Let me put it this way.  If you know what you’re doing and you set up your Facebook/MySpace profile properly, picking up women on these websites is easy as PIE.  I can teach you this precise method.

And let me tell you it is NOT the same as how you would approach a woman in real life… there are no “multiple threads” or typical “DHV” spikes (Demonstration of Higher Value) like you all may be familiar with.  Doing so can get your account reported or banned for harassment.  Ouch.

So do you want to learn some secrets on how to attract, meet, and seduce these beautiful women?  You can get started by learning how to tweak your profile so you won’t look like another average chump on the internet… visit OnlinePickupSecrets

You can sign up for my free e-course on how to attract women with just written language.  I also teach some fatal mistakes all men do when talking to women online! Don’t get left out.

So get with the times!  The laws of attraction have always been the same, but there is a new and easier way to use them.

-Derek Lamont
www.OnlinePickupSecrets.com

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So guys, this month it’s your turn. Below you’ll find some
a combination of my favorite make-her-toes-curl moves, as
well as some fun tidbits from the thousands of women who write
to me, telling me what they look for in a guy.

Science first.

1. Take your positions for the mating dance.

Want to be the guy who gets noticed? Stand in the center
of the

room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several

books and nationally-known expert in the field of spacial
psychology,

where you are in a room (and what you’re doing) has a lot
to do with

your ability to attract women. Where should you be for the

highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties?

Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving
around

a bit. (But don’t pace a track on the carpet for goodness
sake…)

2. Nice guys wear blue.

According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director
of the

Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every
Mood,

women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why

wouldn’t we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently

wear blue are “stable, faithful, constant and always
there.” The

blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship
–

someone who’s dependable, momogomous and can match his

own clothes.

Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away

from what Eiseman calls “squished caterpillar yellow-green”

which is said to repel both sexes equally.

3. Be an Alpha male, or just look like one.

According to Body Language Expert Patti Wood, you shouldn’t
fold your arms or chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. Wood
says, chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of
which are very attractive emotions.

There’s more. Women are biologically attracted to more dominant
men, so stand tall with your shoulders back. Feel free to
take up some space. Wood says appearing more dominant effectively
draws female attention. To attract women, stand with your
feet 6-10 inches apart, and your toes pointing outward.

For men who are victims of the “nice guy” badge,
or who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking
your Y chromosome out for a spin. According to spatial psychologist
Albert Mehrabian, men should “try wearing bulkier or
more conservative hairstyles or clothing,” hold your
head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more
assertive.

Make your move.

1) The eyes have it.

Once you’ve zeroed in on a target, lock eyes with her for
a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze.
Don’t stare a hole through the girl’s forehead for goodness
sake, just give her a smoldering come-hither look and look
away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute
period. Why? Your target needs to know it’s them you’re flirting
with, and eye contact is a universal signal of openness. Then,
make your move. Walk up and start a conversation. Wait too
long and they’ll likely lose interest.

2) Preen like a peacock.

We tend to preen or groom ourselves subconsciously when we’re
attracted to someone, by smoothing down our hair or clothes,
such as straightening your tie. Try combining a grooming gesture
with a smile and a gaze.

3) Monkey see, monkey do.

People mirror each other’s body language when they are attracted
with similar gestures, voice volume, etc. Try subtly mimicking
your flirting target’s behavior. If she leans forward, you
lean forward. If he scratches his head, you scratch your head.
If you are mirroring someone’s behavior, they’ll begin to
feel as though the two of you are connected and “in tune.”

4) Go in for the kill.

Once you and your flirting target have started talking, use
these tips to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain
eye contact as they are speaking, and focus all of your attention
on what they are saying. There is rarely anyone more attractive
than someone who finds you utterly fascinating.

How to tell if a woman is flirting with you? Look for signs
like extended eye contact, low-level touching and laughing.

What the women want.

Finally, once you’ve made your move, there are a few more
strategies you should employ. According to my research and
the hundreds of letters I receive every week, what women really
want is pretty simple:

1) If you want a woman’s phone number, be a man and ask for
it. Don’t pull that weenie-move of handing us your business
card and expecting us to make the first move.

2) Don’t wait a week to call. We know you’re playing it cool
and it irritates us. Two or three days is plenty of time to
wait.

3) Don’t wait until the last minute to ask for a date. Give
us a chance to look forward to it. (On the other hand, in
the early stages of a new relationship (first month) NEVER
ask us for a date several months in advance. Let ‘s make sure
the relationship is something both parties want to pursue
before you get locked into plans you may not want to keep.)

4) Never pressure a woman for sex. Really. Especially on
the first date.

5) Be a gentleman. That means paying for dinner, holding
the door open, and using your table manners. (Even if you
can belch the theme from Star Wars.)

6) Always offer your coat on a chilly night. (Yes, we know
we should bring our own, but we don’t. Besides, there’s something
utterly fabulous about cuddling up in your big man jacket.)

7) On top of that, be yourself. A really great guy.

For more information on:

The psychology of color: www.pantone.com

Body language:
www.pattiwood.net

© 2004 by Lisa Daily. All rights reserved.

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