Tiger Woods Affair: Why Nice Guys Cheat

By Lisa Daily

By now you’ve probably heard the sordid details of Tiger Woods alleged affairs with cocktail waitress Jamiee Grubbs, New York city nightclub hostess Rachel Uchitel, and Las Vegas party planner Kalika Moquin.

The scandal comes as a bit of a surprise to his many fans, especially considering his squeaky-clean image.

Here are details so far, in case you missed anything:

On November 27, Tiger crashed his Cadillac Escalade outside his Florida home. There have been a number of reports that Tiger and his wife Elin were arguing over a text message. There has also been some speculation as to whether Elin bashed out Tiger’s car window with a golf club to “rescue” him from his car as has been claimed, or was, er, bashing his window with a golf club for some other reason.

Swedish golfer Jesper Parnevik introduced Tiger Woods to his wife Elin Nordegren in 2001, while she was working for Parnevik’s family as an au pair, “We probably thought he was a better guy than he is. I probably would have to apologize to her and hope she uses a driver next time rather than a three-iron, I would say.”

Why do (seemingly) nice guys cheat?

Cheaters usually fall into two categories: Those who are always looking for opportunities to cheat (serial cheaters) and those who find themselves with an opportunity to cheat and make a bad decision. (Unintended cheaters.)

Serial cheaters usually use sex as a sort of emotional band-aid to make themselves feel better about insecurities, growing older, depression, and for thrill-seeking, among other things. Serial cheaters seek out opportunities for sex - think ESPN’s Steve Phillips.

Unintended cheaters generally make a bad decision when presented with an opportunity to cheat, but don’t seek out the opportunity. This is the kind of person who sleeps with a coworker after an out of town conference following a rough month, or a difficult life change.

And once that horse is out of the starting gate, all bets are off.

So what does that make Tiger?

At this point, it’s hard to tell. On the “Unintentional Cheater” side of the argument, Tiger had a lot of things on his plate back in early 2007 when Grubbs claims they began their affair:

First, he’d lived for a couple of decades under the intense pressure of perfection. Despite the fact that he has been in the media spotlight for a very long time, he’s never really had a screw-up. And he is, after all, a human being. None of us can sustain perfection indefinitely.

Second, Tiger’s father, by many accounts his north star, died in 2006 after a bout with cancer.

Finally, Tiger’s wife Elin was very pregnant with their first child Sam when the alleged affair began. Sleazy? Yes. But is it unheard of for a guy to freak out when his wife gets pregnant, whether at the prospect of a permanent relationship, or terror of the responsibility of becoming a father? Nope. In fact, it happens with astounding frequency.

On the “Serial Cheater” side of the argument, if in fact Woods did have relationships with the three women, Jamiee Grubbs, New York city nightclub hostess Rachel Uchitel, and Las Vegas party planner Kalika Moquin, or more — it wouldn’t be a shock to learn there are even more women who have not yet come forward.

Once might be an accident. Three times is usually a habit.

A voicemail obtained by http://www.usmagazine.com/celebritynews/news/hear-tiger-panic-to-mistress-my-wife-may-be-calling-you-2009212 US MAGAZINE has been circulating the Internet:

“Hey, it’s Tiger. I need you to do me a huge favor. Can you please take your name off your phone? My wife went through my phone and may be calling you. So if you can, please take your name off that. Just have it as a number on the voicemail. You got to do this for me. Huge. Quickly. Bye.”

Can a couple move forward after one of them has an affair?

Only time will tell. The details of these alleged relationships are still coming to light, and it’s pretty obvious that Tiger and Elin will have a lot of challenges in putting their relationship back together if that’s what they choose to do. There are a couple of good signs early on — first, Tiger chose to protect his wife, instead of himself, when rumors were swirling around about the golf club/Escalade fiasco. Second, Yahoo Sports reports that the couple is now seeing a therapist several times a day and that Elin not only received an immediate $5 million dollar payout, she also gained somewhere in the neighborhood of $55 million dollars in a pre-nup revision. In exchange, she has to stick around for a couple more years and keep mum about her story.

Why stick around?

Maybe, just maybe, Elin wants to keep her family together. And maybe, just maybe, Tiger has had a wake-up call, and realizes all he’s been risking.

And if nothing else, $55 million and two young children is a pretty good incentive to give couples therapy a try.

For many people, cheating is a deal breaker. And the truth is, if they have any chance of getting through this, Tiger is going to have to own up to what he’s done with his wife and take responsibility for all of her hurt and anger around it.

And judging from his history, he might want to steer clear of nightclubs.

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http://www.lisadaily.com/datingexperttv TV Dating coach Lisa Daily writes a relationships, love and dating advice blog. Need advice? Check it out! Lisa is the bestselling author of http://www.lisadaily.com/datingexperttv Stop Getting Dumped! , How To Date Like a Grown-up and Fifteen Minutes of Shame and has been seen everywhere from US Weekly to the HITCH movie DVD starring Will Smith

Review Of Romantics Guide To Popping The Question

This book is pure genius. That’s the only way to put it. It’s the kind of book I wish I had thought of writing because the guy who wrote it didn’t have to write one word of it. Let me explain briefly.

Michael Webb was on Oprah. Maybe you saw the episode. Anyway, they ran a contest for people to submit their best marriage proposal ideas. I know, sounds crazy, but that’s what he did.

Well, they got over 7,000 stories submitted from all over the world. And what Michael did was put the best 101 in this book. I would so love to tell you what some of these amazing ideas are but I can’t. You’re just going to have to read the book. But I promise you, never in a million years will you think of some of this stuff to use to propose and I promise you that if you use just ANY of these on your fiancé that you’ll have her speechless.

Some of my favorites are the ones that involve almost no expense at all. If you’re on a budget, you will want to read these first. There are even proposals that were made by women. So if you’re a woman, you will also get something out of this book, though quite honestly, it is more focused towards men.

But here is the main reason why getting this book is a no brainer. This poor guy had to go through over 7,000 stories just to find 101 that were worth putting into this book. Can you imagine how much research time that just saved you? The time alone is worth the price of the book. It would have taken me an eternity to find some of these stories.

But Michael doesn’t stop there. He also gives you a 30 minute phone consultation to help you prepare your proposal. This guy must live on the phone. It’s obvious he loves what he does.

At the very least check out the site below and see what he’s offering.

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3 Great Tips For Ending An Affair

So, you’re stuck in an affair that you can’t seem to get out of. You dread having to say those five words, “I don’t love you anymore” but one more day with this person and you’re going to put a gun to your head. What do you do? Well, let’s be honest. Ending an affair is not easy. If you’re looking for a quick and painless solution, you’re out of luck. However, these three tips should make the ordeal a lot less painful on both parties. Keep reading to find out more.

Tip number 1 is simple…do it now! I’m dead serious. You do NOT want to put this off. The longer you wait, the harder it’s going to be. Every single day that you delay is one more day that your partner is going to get that much more attached to you. Believe me when I say this…people do NOT give up easily. So if you’ve already decided that you want to end this, do it quickly or it’s only going to get harder.

Tip number 2 is not as simple…be direct! You know those poorly written situation comedies where the guy is about to break up with his girl and says something stupid like, “So, what do you think about those Knicks?” Yeah, it’s true. Beating around the bush happens in real life too. Don’t do it. Approach your partner and simply say, “We have to talk.” When your partner asks, “About what?” you simply say, “About us.” Don’t hem and haw. Don’t look around the room. Look directly in your partner’s eyes and give it to them straight.

Tip number 3 is to make them understand that the relationship was a two way street and it wasn’t all their fault. Take responsibility for your role in the disaster. Trust me, it really DOES take two to dance the tango. If you’re up front and don’t make the partner feel like they were the “bad guy” it will greatly help this whole thing go down better.

Like I said, there is no easy way to breakup with somebody, but if you do it quickly, if you’re direct and if you accept some blame, it will go a lot better than if you just kick them out the door or worse…keep them hanging on.

For more info on this subject, check out this great resource that I think will help you a lot.

Break Free from the Affair

Mastering Online Dating Etiquette

By Ferda Shinsky

Master the on-line dating etiquette is not difficult to obtain because it is the voice of the … Oh, of course, from time to time, the microphone can be stuttering or wrong information on instant messaging, but in reality, if you are impressed by the efforts will go Had a similar thing, they are not worth impressed.

All this after the good behavior on the Internet is a sacrifice, while for ‘laughing loudly’ and ‘rofl’, especially the on-time ‘idk’ in exchange for something a little more romantic such as’ I hope to have this conversation in person ‘ .

Online dating etiquette requires a few things. Firstly, one must never attempt to jump head first into sexual context. Although some people are just looking for fun and will therefore respond to such an outlandish jump, one must take into account that there are some who are very shy and tired of being lonely.

Seems like an editorial with them, ’so, are you as hot as your picture?’ Or ‘Let’s cut to the chase … Give me your address’ in violation of their rights is very sensitive to privacy and discourage them from further use of free internet dating sites.

Secondly, many places will offer dating websites free. However, some sites are costing each party money. Although online dating etiquette does not mandate anything in particular, it does mean to bring to the public attention that someone is paying money to talk to someone else. So make it worth their whileatalk about them as much as about yourself, and donat be possessive over their time. Being courteous and understanding limits is just one way of showing that you care about the person you are speaking to.

Thirdly, and most personally, and to give everyone the opportunity to meet you. Bearing in mind that some people use an online dating website because in a very shy person, do not give your first impression more than Lao looked forward to their personality profiles.

If you think you may like someone on getting to know them, investigate thema.make contact and initiate a general conversation. Be careful not to be invasive of their personal life, as you are just meeting them and have not done anything yet to earn their trust.

Be able to online dating fitness crowned with the golden rule, which dates to all relationships: Be yourself. To give everyone you meet is the first impression that you carefully. If you feel you can not give the impression to do so without intimidation of people off, perhaps more than online dating community not to you. However, with a simple recognition of online dating etiquette, it should never come to. Respect for the people you meet, and that they will respect you in return. Who knows? You can only respond to what you want.

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The Value Of Understanding Paralanguage

Do you know what paralanguage is? If not you should because paralanguage is actually a language skill that we all speak no matter what country you are from and what language you speak. Paralanguage is a form of body language really, only it’s the body of the words you speak. Huh, what doea that mean? Paralinguistics is the study of paralanguage and that is basically in a nut shell the way or how you say things not what you are saying.

Paralanguage has a few aspects to it that we are all aware of we just may have never known to call it paralanguage. It’s all about the how and not the what. Paralanguage involves the intonation in your voice, the speed in which you are speaking those certain syllables that you put emphasis on to make your point. Plus those little what I like to call “fillers” the help your conversation along. For example when you talk and are stuck for a thought in the middle of a conversation and you have a pause or you mumble a filler like uh-huh, mmmmm, and ahh you know the fillers.

What’s that olde saying it’s not what you say but how you say it. When you realize what paralanguage is it becomes clear how important it is to the basic workings of any and all languages that people speak. The place where you can see the value in paralanguage is very important but unfortunately is very restricted is somewhere that most of use to communicate with on a daily basis.

Millions if not billions of people use e-communications everyday and what I am referring to is the e-mails and text messages that are relied on so heavily now a days. With the exception of an occasional or abbreviated lol the use of paralanguage in an e-mail or text message is very limited.

This paralanguage limitation of course is what leads to a lot of miscommunication and misunderstandings when people text or e-mail each other with out really knowing the person that wrote the message you are reading. The only paralanguage that comes with an e-mail or text message is from your perspective and based on your history. So unless you know the sender really well the paralanguage that you attach to that message you are reading can be completely different if you actually heard how the the person said it. The how something is said is where the true value of understanding paralanguage lies.

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Celebrating Girls Night With Cool Party Invitations And Ideas

Getting together with your girlfriends can be a fun way to blow off some steam. And it can be down right necessary. We all get busy with work, family and other commitments and we need to remember to make time to check in and reconnect with our friends. Get your girls together for a fun night out with a perfect party invitation. Pick a fun themed invitation to hint at your plans for ‘girl’s night’ and soon you’ll be laughing and having a great time.

Out on the town
If your friends don’t like to sit around then a night of club-hopping and dancing is right up their alley. Get dressed up and hit the town for a ‘girl’s night out.’ Pick out a dancing or cocktail themed party invitation to get everyone in the right mood. A night on the town is a great way to find a new club, blow off some steam and even get some together time with your best friends. You might even consider renting a car and driver to take you from place to place and back home again. Just remember to bring your dancing shoes.

Shopping
Maybe you and your girls need a little ‘retail therapy?’ Gather your friends and head over to the mall or your favorite stores to bond while you beat the racks and get some great deals. A purse and shoe party invitation would be perfect for your shopping spree plans. Shopping with friends can be very relaxing. Not only is shopping a great way to reconnect, but you know that your girlfriends will tell you what they honestly think of that outfit you’re going to buy.

Spa treatment
Sometimes you need to get together with your friends, slow down and have a massage and spa treatment. Spa treatments and pampering can do wonders to relax and rejuvenate you and your girlfriends. Set aside a whole day or night for a massage, facial, manicure or pedicure – whatever is going to make you feel better. Pick a spa that can not only accommodate you and your group but will also let you get some treatments together. Lots of spas will allow you to have manicures, pedicures, facials and more as a group so you can talk and enjoy the company of your friends. Your spa day deserves a relaxing party invitation. Pick images that are relaxing and perhaps even lavender or eucalyptus scented for a calming touch.

Stay home
There is nothing wrong with making ‘girl’s night’ a night in. Stay home, order pizza and catch up on your movie watching. Make a note on your party invitation that you’re staying in for a subdued ‘girls night in.’ Or if you’re thinking of something with a little more kick, host a wine tasting. Add in some snacks to compliment the wine and you’ve got a great night. There are many cute and clever wine themed party invitations to choose from for your girls’ wine tasting. This is not only a great chance to catch up over a glass of wine, but you might also discover a great new wine.

Take some time out for you and your friends. A night to reconnect with your girlfriends can be important for your relationships and even your sanity. Put the rest of the world on hold and spend some quality time with those who know you best: your girlfriends.

Check out MyExpression.com for great party invitations. You’ll also find great themed party invitations

Amy Carter is a former event planner with lots of great tips, tricks and advice to make your next event spectacular. Check out MyExpression.com they have plenty of party invitations and much more.

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Valentine’s Day Date Ideas

For many Valentine’s Day is one day of the year where couples really want to have a great date and show their partner how much they love them and care about them. However, many people have a great deal of trouble deciding planning a Valentine’s Day. This may be because there is a great deal of pressure to plan a fabulous date or simply because the person planning the date just doesn’t know how to plan a great date on any day of the year and is particularly stressed about planning a date on such an important day. Whichever the case, this article will provide a few date ideas for a great Valentine’s Day.

A romantic candlelight dinner is one of the most classic ideas for a Valentine’s Day date. Whether you plan and cook an elaborate meal by yourself, order in pizza and eat by candlelight or go out to an elegant restaurant with a great atmosphere, this type of date is likely to be well received. Although a romantic candlelight dinner might seem like a boring idea for a Valentine’s Day date just because it has been done so often and isn’t very original but it is a date idea which is always appreciated and never goes out of style.

Going out for a night of dancing is another great idea for a Valentine’s Day date. If you and your partner are already great dancers you can simply head out to a local dance club and plan on dancing away the evening. However, you might want to make things a little more interesting by changing things a little. For example if you and your partner typically enjoy country dancing you might try heading to a nightclub featuring salsa music. This will help to make the date seem more interesting. If you and your partner do not have a great deal of experience dancing, you can try arranging ballroom dancing lessons as a Valentine’s Day date idea. This will give you and your date an opportunity to learn something new together and connect in a new way.

Another great idea for a Valentine’s Day date idea is to rent a series of movies according to a particular theme and spend the evening watching movies and making popcorn at home. You can opt for renting several romantic movies to set the mood for Valentine’s Day but you don’t have to have the evening focus on romance. You can choose any theme which you and your partner will enjoy. For example you may try a few different sports related movies or a series of comedies. Whichever you choose, you are sure to have a great time because you are getting the opportunity to spend some quality time alone with your date.

A helicopter ride is a really romantic date idea for Valentine’s Day. Depending on where you live, you are likely to find pilots who offer scenic rides for this type of occasion. Whether you opt for a ride over a city or through scenic mountains, you and your date are sure to enjoy this unique Valentine’s Day date. This could be rather expensive and will likely not be a rather long event. To cut down on costs you might consider combining the helicopter ride with coffee and dessert afterwards instead of an expensive dinner.

Cultural events such as plays and visits to museums also make great Valentine’s Day date ideas. These types of events can be especially good ideas if you and your date do not normally engage in these types of activities. You can spend an afternoon or an evening comparing opinions on art displays or sit through a play or opera. However, it is important to remember these types of activities are only good ideas for a Valentine’s Day date if it is something you and your date will enjoy but normally don’t have time to do. If you and your date don’t normally do these types of things because you don’t enjoy them, then it would not be a good idea for a Valentine’s Day date.

Finding a Date for Valentine’s Day

If you are looking for a date for Valentine’s Day, you can rest assured that you are not alone. People around the world love celebrating Valentine’s Day with someone they love. For those who are in committed relationships, this is usually pretty easy. However, for those who are single or even dating, finding a date for Valentine’s Day can be a difficult task. This article will take a look at a few different scenarios and provide advice for finding a date for Valentine’s Day in each situation.

Couples in a committed relationship, do not usually find themselves alone on Valentine’s Day. For these couples it is generally assumed that unless work or other obligations interfere, they will be spending Valentine’s Day together. However, just because it is assumed does not always mean everything works out as planned. In fact it can be the source of problems for couples around Valentine’s Day. Couples who assume they will be spending Valentine’s Day together may also assume their partner is taking care of making plans for the special day. However, if both of the partners make this assumption, the couple may find themselves spending Valentine’s Day alone because neither of them made plans. To avoid this problem, couples should avoid making assumptions and verbalize their plans for the day.

Couples who have only been dating for a short time may have a great deal of difficulty getting a date for Valentine’s Day and making plans for the day. This is because the partners may not yet feel secure enough in the relationship to know whether or not their partner will want to celebrate the day with them. This can be a turning point in a relationship as the couple tries to determine how they feel about each other and whether or not they want to spend Valentine’s Day together. Couples in this type of relationship should carefully evaluate their own feelings and determine what they are looking for in the relationship before bringing up the subject with the partner. This is a good idea because it helps to ensure the couple is not simply getting caught up in the spirit of the holiday and that they really love each other. If you have only been dating someone for a short time but feel strongly about going on a date with her on Valentine’s Day, go ahead and ask her out. The worst that can happen is she says no. While this may ruin your plans for the big day, it will give you a better understanding of where your relationship stands.

Those who are single may have the most difficult time finding a date for Valentine’s Day. In one scenario and individual may be single but also secretly pining for another they would love to spend Valentine’s Day. In this case, if the person they admire is also single, it is worthwhile to just go ahead and ask her out. Again, she may say no but she also might say yes. If she says yes, you may end up having a great time on your Valentine’s Day date and it may lead to future dates. On the other hand, if she says no, you haven’t really lost anything because you didn’t have plans anyway and you can still plan on getting together with friends for Valentine’s Day.

Finally, if you are single and do not really have someone you want to spend a romantic Valentine’s Day; you can just plan to get together with a good friend or a group of friends on this day instead. Going out to dinner or to a movie is a fun way to spend Valentine’s Day even if you aren’t actually on a date. Valentine’s Day is about love but it doesn’t always have to be a romantic kind of love. You can have a great time on Valentine’s Day with a really good friend and do not always have to plan a romantic date for Valentine’s Day.

Celebrate Valentine’s Day a Day Late

Valentine’s Day can be annoying and stressful what with overcrowding and long waits to be seated in the resturant. Some restaurants do not take reservations and even the ones that do often have difficulty honoring these reservations when there are huge crowds on Valentine’s Day.

As a result there are many couples who opt to celebrate Valentine’s Day by going out to dinner a day or two late or even a day or two early. There is nothing wrong with this and it can often result in a much more relaxing Valentine’s Day celebration simply because it is taking place on the 13th or the 15th of February instead of the 14th. This article will provide some information on celebrating Valentine’s Day a day late.

If you are planning to take your partner out to dinner to celebrate Valentine’s Day but are having trouble making reservations you might consider making your reservations for the day after Valentine’s Day or for the first weekend after Valentine’s Day. This will give you many additional options and will help to make your planning easier. However, if this is what you are planning you should probably also consult your partner to make sure celebrating a day late or even a few days late will not be disappointing to your partner. This is an important factor to consider because there are many who are very adamant about going out to celebrate on Valentine’s Day and may be extremely disappointed if plans are made for a day late.

If your partner will be extremely disappointed about celebrating Valentine’s Day, it might be a good idea to alter the plans rather than delaying them. For example if you want to avoid having to wait more than an hour for a table at a fancy restaurant, try cooking a great meal for your partner instead. You will still be celebrating in a really fun way but you won’t have the stress of dealing with a crowded restaurant.

Sometimes it is not merely a matter of convenience which makes it necessary to celebrate Valentine’s Day a day or two late. You or your partner may have an unusual work schedule which would make getting together on Valentine’s Day extremely difficult. For example doctors often work a few long shifts per week which can interfere with Valentine’s Day plans. If you or your partner is in this type of situation it is best to discuss Valentine’s Day ahead of time and figure out what will work best for the two of you. You might decide it would be a good idea to celebrate few days late or you may even agree to just exchange cards for Valentine’s Day. Whatever you decide you should make sure it is a decision which makes you both happy.

Finally, if you and your partner are planning to celebrate Valentine’s Day a day or two late it is important to remember that you should still treat your celebration with all of the excitement and enthusiasm as you would if you were celebrating on the 14th of February.

For example if you would buy a new dress, get your nails done or get your hair done for Valentine’s Day you should still go ahead and do these things even if you are celebrating Valentine’s Day late. It will help to make the celebration feel more fun and exciting.

5 Secrets to Attract The Opposite Sex Like Ants To Grape Jelly

By Lisa Daily

Want to quintuple your odds of winning in the dating game?

We surveyed a variety of top experts and learned five

unbelievably effective secrets to make the opposite sex come running.

Here’s how you can use them to work for you:

1. BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION

Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several books and nationally-known expert in the field of spacial psychology, where you are in a room (and what you’re doing) has a lot to do with your ability to attract the opposite sex. Where should you be for the highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties? Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around a bit. (But don’t pace a track on the carpet for goodness
sake…)

If you’re in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the corners on the bar. Not only will you meet more people, but, according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the corners as well. Interesting conversation AND a full drink?

You’ll feel like you’ve died and gone to dating heaven. The worst place to be seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table.

That hot stranger approaching your table and asking “may I join you” only happens in the movies.

2. THE COLOR LURE

What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to approach you?

According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood, women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why wouldn’t we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently wear blue are “stable, faithful, constant and always there.” The blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship someone who’s dependable, momogomous and can match his own clothes.

And what about the ladies? Eiseman says women should wear a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable. The color is “very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow,” and according to Eiseman, projects “a little vulnerability which brings out something protective in men.”

Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can’t handle strong women? Try a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who aren’t attracted to strong women will steer clear.

Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with caution. “Red is the color of sex and power,” says Eiseman. Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of men - men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful women. Sure, you’ll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks, but you could also end up attracting a guy that isn’t threatened by the fact that you make a bigger salary.

Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away from what Eiseman calls “squished caterpillar yellow-green” which is said to repel both sexes equally.

3. BODY TALK THAT REELS ‘EM IN

How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex?

If you’re a woman, the key is to make yourself approachable. According to nationally-respected body language expert and professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a “safe” (read approachable) target. How do you accomplish that?

Don’t take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and superiority.)

Wood says, “we are strong women, but remember, we’re trying to

get a man to come over and talk to us.” She explains, “you have to show you have room for someone else in your life.”

In addition, Wood says “to be very approachable women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward. ” Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt - signal you’re listening to what the other person has to say.

For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and toes pointing outward. Feel free to take up some space. For men who are victims of the “nice guy” badge, or who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a spin. According to Mehrabian, men should “try wearing bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing,” hold your head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more assertive.

Body language tips for both sexes: Don’t fold your arms and don’t chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood, the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive emotions.

4. THE POWER OF A SMILE

Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a great big plastic game-show smile, just your normal “I’m having a great time and

I’m happy to be here” face will do the trick. According to Wood, “the smile is the international signal of friendliness.”

5. TEMPTING WITH SCENT

Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To make the scents work for you, try baking some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume (there’s a fabulous one called “Man Magnet” at www.stopgettingdumped.com.)

Aromatherapy experts have long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac. According to Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert and owner of Herban Avenues, “certain aromatic plants exude oils similar to our own sexual secretions or pheromones. These pheromones can greatly influence both social and sexual behavior,transforming ordinary people into more interactive and attractive beings. With essences like cinnamon, for example, and vanilla, there is an added benefit from tapping into pleasant warm memories of food and love and the sense of home.”

The scent of a woman? Women, according to a recent study, are attracted to a black licorice scent. So, be sure to pick up licorice or Good ‘n Plenty at the theater snack bar. And, if you’re at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt, don’t worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.

Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped!

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