Why Good Girls Love Bad
Boys.
By Lisa Daily
We’ve all done it at one time or another. We whine
to our friends about the lack of nice available guys, and
then, when given the choice between a nice, sweet (safe) guy
and a bad boy who makes our toes curl, we invariably go for
the toe-curler. The heartbreak-waiting-to-happen.
The bad boy.
Doesn’t make any sense, does it?
I recently received a letter from a sweet guy who wrote,
"I've been looking for some insights to what women are
looking for, because from my perspective, they often go for
that which they complain about most!
Got any advice for us men?"
Baby, you hit the nail right on the head.
There’s good news and bad news for all you nice guys
out there. Your day will come. It just may not be today.
Nearly all women go through some period in their lives when
they’re swept up by a bad boy. The Navy Seal with the
amazing bod and the mental prowess of a fruit plate. The Harley
guy with mean beard stubble and an attitude to match. The
Josh Hartnett look-alike who makes us feel like the center
of the universe, and then puts the moves on our roommate the
minute we leave for the ladies room.
We can see these guys coming a mile away, and yet we fall
for it every time.
Why?
Part of us actually like to believe we can be the one girl
to turn this wild man into a pussycat. Part of us just like
that down-to-our-toes thrill, the excitement of something
we KNOW is bad for us. (Like chocolate cheesecake, and Jimmy
Choo shoes.) Some of us are just gluttons for misery.
Most women actually grow out of the bad-boy phase once we
hit our mid-twenties. Our girlfriends start to couple off,
and we start wondering if we used up our nice guy quota in
college when were still torturing men for sport. That’s
where you come in, Mr. Sweet Guy. Because you’re the
guy we really want.
Here’s my advice for all the nice guys:
Remember what we were wearing on our first date. Give romantic
gifts on birthdays and anniversaries (and remember flower-mandatory
holidays such as Valentine’s Day.) Get what we’re
all about. Let us know what you’re all about. Kill any
bugs that sneak into the kitchen. Give us your coat when it
gets chilly outside. And remember there’s a fine line
between being a nice guy and being a doormat - don’t
take any crap from us.
After all, you don’t want to be a good boy in love
with a bad girl.
Have faith and be safe - Eventually you'll meet someone
fantastic, and you'll just, well, click.
© 2004 by Lisa Daily. All rights reserved.
Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped! All
you need to know to make men fall madly in love with you and
marry "The One" in 3 years or less. At bookstores everywhere.
As seen in/on Cosmopolitan, The Other Half and Ricki Lake
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