How to Seduce Men
by Matthew Whiting of 000relationships
For some, the thrill of seduction lies in the chase rather
than the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing
someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself. For others,
it's the knowledge that another persons sexual attentions
are focused on them that gives that electric thrill. Those
who thoroughly enjoy the chase are generally people with plenty
of self-confidence. Their belief in themselves increases the
likelihood of success.
Those who are less self-confident usually find seduction
far more difficult. How can you convince a member of the opposite
sex to believe in you if they look upon yourself as being
unattractive? It's important that you choose the right person
to seduce. This is more a matter of instinct than anything
else, but most of us endeavour to make conversation, or at
least some eye contact, with a potential partner who we consider
to be about as attractive as we feel we are.
Once you've sought out your 'prey', you have to decide whether
the time and/or situation is right for seduction. If the object
of your passion is somebody you see on a regular basis, the
time/place being wrong may very well add to the thrill. If
you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that the
other person is interested but that you can't do anything
about it just yet can increase the feelings of arousal and
excitement.
But how do you know that he's interested? The best clues
come from reading body language. Non-verbal signals are far
better indicators of how a person feels about you than anything
they may actually say verbally. Those with an open posture
are usually more available than those who stand with their
arms crossed. The eyes are the biggest give-away when it comes
to seduction. If he returns you gaze, and especially if he
holds eye contact with you longer than you'd normally expect,
then chances are you're on to a winner. Trust your instincts.
You'll 'feel' whether he's interested or not. Small gestures
and tone of voice tell us a lot about how the other person
feels about us.
Flirt. Did I really need to mention that? Flirting is used
in two ways. We flirt with others to remind our partner that
we still need to be wooed by him, but when used for seduction,
it's a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused,
as well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be
rejected. Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly
dependent on your signals to reassure them that they are 'onto
something'. Playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive
to men unless you're sending out enough signals to assure
him that you are 'gettable' and that the chase will be worth
it in the end.
Once you've made contact with him, you'll need to let him
know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have
very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important
that you both know that you're looking for the same things.
This doesn't mean that you should just blurt out "I'm
a dominatrix, how d'ya fancy being whipped?", or anything
else quite as obvious. You can, and it might work, but in
general, the subtle approach is more likely to get you what
you want. Men generally take the lead in this area, asking
questions and trying to access whether you'd make a satisfactory
sex partner. Follow his lead. The questions probably won't
be direct (depending upon the man), but they will be based
around 'self-disclosure'. He tells you some, you tell him
some. People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract
manner when accessing a potential partner, testing each other
in a non-committal way.
Now that you're speaking, you have to sustain his interest.
Two people who may have been attracted to each other visually,
may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of
seduction once mouths have been opened. Look for signs of
acceptance or rejection. If you pick up on any signs of rejection,
don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to
happen, no matter how much you fancy him. There are plenty
more available males about just waiting to be seduced.
If you're still doing fine and the signals are good, it's
time to move onto the final yielding. One of you must surrender.
In all probability it will be you, because even if you initialised
the seduction, he will probably have taken over the role of
pursuer somewhere along the line. The roles of 'hunter' and
'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of evolution,
and usually fall naturally into place. Surrender and enjoy!
>> To find out more secrets, read Matthew's eBook -
"How
to Be Irresistibly Attractive to the Opposite Sex".
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