5 Secrets
to Attract The Opposite Sex
Like Ants To Grape Jelly.
By Lisa Daily
Want to quintuple your odds of winning in the dating game?
We surveyed a variety of top experts and learned five
unbelievably effective secrets to make the opposite sex come
running.
Here's how you can use them to work for you:
1. BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center
of the
room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several
books and nationally-known expert in the field of spacial
psychology,
where you are in a room (and what you're doing) has a lot
to do with
your ability to attract the opposite sex. Where should you
be for the
highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties?
Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving
around
a bit. (But don't pace a track on the carpet for goodness
sake...)
If you're in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is
at one of the
corners on the bar. Not only will you meet more people, but,
according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward
the
corners as well. Interesting conversation AND a full drink?
You'll
feel like you've died and gone to dating heaven. The worst
place
to be seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table.
That
hot stranger approaching your table and asking "may I
join you"
only happens in the movies.
2. THE COLOR LURE
What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to
approach you?
According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director
of the
Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every
Mood,
women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why
wouldn't we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently
wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant and always
there." The
blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship
--
someone who's dependable, momogomous and can match his
own clothes.
And what about the ladies? Eiseman says women should wear
a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable. The
color is "very flattering to most skin tones, it gives
you healthy
glow," and according to Eiseman, projects "a little
vulnerability
which brings out something protective in men."
Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can't handle
strong women? Try a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who
aren't attracted to strong women will steer clear.
Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red
with
caution. "Red is the color of sex and power," says
Eiseman.
Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of
men - men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful
women. Sure, you'll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks,
but you could also end up attracting a guy that isn't threatened
by the fact that you make a bigger salary.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away
from what Eiseman calls "squished caterpillar yellow-green"
which is said to repel both sexes equally.
3. BODY TALK THAT REELS 'EM IN
How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex?
If you're a woman, the key is to make yourself approachable.
According to nationally-respected body language expert and
professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself
a
"safe" (read approachable) target. How do you accomplish
that?
Don't take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and
superiority.)
Wood says, "we are strong women, but remember, we're
trying to
get a man to come over and talk to us." She explains,
"you have
to show you have room for someone else in your life."
In addition, Wood says "to be very approachable women
should
stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with
toes
pointed slightly inward. " Other key moves, the nod and
the head
tilt - signal you're listening to what the other person has
to say.
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction
of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches
apart,
and toes pointing outward. Feel free to take up some space.
For
men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or
who appear to be
too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome
out for a spin. According to Mehrabian, men should "try
wearing
bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing,"
hold your
head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more
assertive.
Body language tips for both sexes: Don't fold your arms and
don't chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood,
the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which
are very attractive emotions.
4. THE POWER OF A SMILE
Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the
most important things you can do to make yourself more
attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a great big
plastic
game-show smile, just your normal "I'm having a great
time and
I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick. According
to Wood,
"the smile is the international signal of friendliness."
5. TEMPTING WITH SCENT
Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and
vanilla with love. To make the scents work for you, try baking
some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your
date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume
(there's a fabulous one called "Man Magnet" at
www.stopgettingdumped.com.) Aromatherapy experts have
long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac. According to
Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert and owner
of Herban Avenues, "certain aromatic plants exude oils
similar
to our own sexual secretions or pheromones. These
pheromones can greatly influence both social and sexual
behavior,transforming ordinary people into more
interactive and attractive beings. With essences like
cinnamon, for example, and vanilla, there is an added
benefit from tapping into pleasant warm memories of
food and love and the sense of home."
The scent of a woman? Women, according to a recent study,
are attracted to a black licorice scent. So, be sure to pick
up
licorice or Good 'n Plenty at the theater snack bar. And,
if you're
at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your
shirt,
don't worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.
Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped!
All you need to know to make men fall madly in love with you
and
marry “The One” in 3 years or less. At better
bookstores May 2002.
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and “witty”
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